Wounds to Wisdom
No one wants a lesson in loss, but it arrives anyway. Grief is one of the few human experiences we all share, and I am baffled about why we rarely discuss it. My mission is to talk about the taboo and speak the unsaid as a grief educator, invited speaker and storyteller.
You likely didn’t arrive here by accident. (Who searches “grief” for fun?) In this space, I share insight to remind you that you’re not alone when facing a journey of profound loss, and perhaps you’ll find a nugget from my experiences that helps your healing process.
I’m also hoping you’ll share yours, too. Learn how below.
Why I Do What I Do
Grief in same-sex relationships can carry unique challenges, including disenfranchisement and secondary losses that heterosexual couples may be less likely to experience. I didn’t fully understand this until my beloved wife, Wendy, died.
Suddenly, I faced practical and emotional challenges I wasn’t prepared for in a world far different from anything I’d known. As a double Virgo, I am both burdened and blessed with a drive for planning, order, and fixing what’s broken — yet in the midst of loss, chaos took over.
Over time, I learned some hard lessons about conversations we should have had, plans we should have made, and preparations we should have taken. Since Wendy’s passing, I have dedicated myself to helping others, especially lesbians, navigate loss and learn from my journey.
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